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4 Ways to Get Over a Toxic Friendship

In life, there are three super hard things to master: adulting, removing toxic people from our lives, and grieving the loss of those people. Nobody really wants to remove people from their life, but the sad truth is that some people are incredibly toxic, which is not healthy to be around. Getting these people out of your life is one thing, but to get over them is a whole other story.

When recovering from a toxic friendship, try doing some of the following things to make your recovery a peaceful one.

1. Stop feeling guilty about your decision

Keep in mind that you did what’s best for you, and by the end of the day, that’s all that really matters. If someone has a problem with your decision, they’ve got to go. 

2. Surround yourself with people who would do absolutely anything for you

toxic friendship beer pizza
Nicole Gallina

Most of us have few real friends and several acquaintances. When getting over the loss of a toxic person, it’s important to talk to someone who cares about you. Your real friends are always there for you—never forget that. They know you better than you know yourself and will help get you back on track in no time.

3. Go on a spontaneous day trip alone.

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Molly Gallagher

You might feel like you need a change of scenery, and that’s just fine. Also, you might want to be left alone for a little bit, so use that alone time to go travel to someplace new for a little bit.

4. Meditate… or sleep all day

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Rebecca Block

Sometimes, you just want to be as far away from people as possible, and that’s acceptable. For the time being, ignore everyone else and focus on yourself. You’ll thank yourself later on.

Liz is a 25-year-old freelance writer that's based in Brooklyn, New York with her foster cat, Leif. Liz has received her start in the media world at Spoon University, and has acquired over 3.8 million views on her Spoon articles alone with millions more views on her syndicated content while finding her appreciation for consuming and producing branded content. Liz also has her articles syndicated on Business Insider, Insider, MSN, and Teen Vogue in addition to having her most popular article cited by Elite Daily. Liz has also contributed to YourTango and Entrepreneur.When Liz isn't writing, Liz is probably listening to music, walking around aimlessly like the hot mess that she is, cuddling with her cat, consuming new food dishes and drinks, at an event, at therapy with her one and only therapist that she absolutely adores, at an appointment with someone from her medical team, making up random dance moves in her bedroom, or figuring out what to do with herself. Liz's favorite cheese is feta and a pet peeve of hers is when people don't use the word "simultaneously" in the right manner.To get in touch with Liz, she can be reached at itslizab@gmail.com, @astrrisk on Instagram, and on LinkedIn. Liz is always down to be invited to an event or to talk about food, booze, and mental health. Liz's pronouns are she/her/hers.Please be patient when getting in touch with Liz - she probably is unaware as to what day it is, and might be dancing for her therapist.... to the Macarena, of course.